Do you know all your grandparents? If so, you are lucky! I only got to grow up with my mother's mother. My dad's mother died when he was only 16. As a redhead, I'm always wondering where my sister and I got our ginger hair. I asked my dad, "What color of hair did your mom have?"
"Grey," he replied.
His memory of her was fuzzy. I knew that she had been a teacher and was very suited to raising their 12 children. She would line up the kids on the kitchen chairs in two rows. She would ask the two in the first row to spell a word. When one missed, they went to the back of their line and everyone would move up a chair. And still my dad couldn't spell!
That's it! That's all I knew about her!
Then my dad's sister Madalyn died and left some old letters. That is how I got to know my grandmother, Martha Bernadetta Muller Raygor, or simply Detta. Here are the two letters, transcribed as is:
From: 211-1 St., Coon Rapids, Ia., May 4, 1942
To: Mrs. H.R. Smith, General Delivery, Pryor, Okla.
Coon Town, the second day of May, 1942
My dear children –
Hi there, what you all doing these fine days? I say fine,
because it is raining. It was so very dry, that our garden seed wouldn’t
germinate and come up, but things are sure blooming now.
It rained Thu., and then again to-day.
Bess & Les & Grandma, Grandpa & Orlo were over
yesterday after-noon. Les brought me a bale of straw for my hens’ nests. I
asked for a sack full but he brought a whole bale. Bess took one of my big
yellow setting hens Flossy home to set on duck eggs. She said if the eggs
hatched good, she would give me two of the little ducklings to raise. She has 6
setting hens from different people, setting on duck eggs. And she has 4 little
ducks now. [Bess was Detta's first born.]
Now, Madalyn, don’t take me all wrong, I didn’t mean to
insinuate that you’re more lazy at home, but you know they always say the way
to a man’s heart is thru his stomach, so there-fore have a nice supper ready
for him when he gets home from work.
The nice picture of Willie you sent up here, I sent on to
him, and said “Madalyn’s version of you.” What do you think he will think of
that? I bet you will hear from him about it, but it’s all in fun.
Omar, John, Josie & Harry all went up to confession this
evening. Toots wouldn’t go, he said it was too rainy. I went Fri. morning.
[Toots is Larry, my dad, all the others are brothers and sister.]
You know, Toots is in the boys glee club and mixed chorus.
Well they went to the state music contest at Council Bluffs last night, and the
boys glee club took second. The girls first and mixed chorus second. I don’t know if Toots gets to go anyplace
else now or not. It was 1:30 AM when he
got home, so he didn’t get up till 11:30 this noon. I guess he has gone to bed
now.
Well the wind has gone to the north-west and is it ever
getting chilly out. If it clears off by morning, it might freeze, but I hope
not. The warm kitchen stove feels good never-the-less, on the second day of
May.
Speaking of May, here is where the birthdays come in. Nine
are all in May: Leona 4; Dad & Harry 10; Aunt Estella 15; Eddie 16; Toots
17; Jake, Omar & Harry B. 25. [Estella and Leona were Detta's older sisters]
My ten little chicks are growing like everything. I have
another big yellow hen, Sussy, wants to set, so I guess I will set her on some
hens eggs. Lester is going to try and
get me a runty pig to feed for next winter’s meat.
Well I haven’t heard from Clara since Wed. She be O.K. tho, or
they would let us know. It has stopped raining now. [Clara was Detta's second born.]
Dad has a new job now. He and Andy Lindle are the bosses of
a school victory garden. Coon, Viola & Gray schools have 5 acres into
vegetable garden. 2 acres in potatoes, 2 acres into carrots, beets, onions,
turnips, parsnips, peas, beans and sweet corn. The school kids are to take care
of it and the men show them how. Then there will be 5 W.P.A. women to can what
is to can.
Mrs. Esdohr gave me 1 bushel of fire-plant and Daisy C
washed the jars. She and I washed and cut the fire-plant. I canned it and Dad sealed the jars for me.
We canned 16 quarts of sauce.
We have to register for sugar rationing next Tues. We got a
100 lb sack in the winter yet, so will have 25 lbs. to report on.
The fire has gone out and I am getting cold, so I guess I
will have to go to bed to get warm, so good night until to-morrow some time.
Mon. after-noon. I am
grandma again. Clara & Harry have a big girl, came Sun. morn. Weighs 8 lb.
11 oz. Dark hair & big blue eyes. Harry says she has big feet too. They may
name her Murl Ann. Clara wants it that, but Harry doesn’t like Murl.
I must write Clara a big letter this P.M.
Say! Tell Harold that from his picture, he looks to be a
very handsome young man. We would all
like to meet him soon.
We got your special delivery letter, also one letter from
the Post Master and your picture back.
I washed this morning, so there-fore I am rather tired.
Pepper Young’s family is just coming on the radio, so I must
listen to that. It is sure good now.
With that finished, I will proceed with my letter. It is now 2:45 and it looks as tho it might
rain again. Eggs aren’t quite so high here. I get 27c a dozen for extras and 25c
for firsts. Of course, if I were to buy them, I might have to pay 29c or 30c a
dozen. I sold 1 dozen last Sat. and got 37c for them, but now I only have 3
hens to lay for me.
Can’t think of any more news, so will say adieu for now.
Write very soon. I am as always, your loving Mom.
This letter doesn't reflect the severe pain she was in with stomach cancer. In fact, she died just 21 days after she wrote this last letter.
From: Mrs. Ed Raygor, 211-1 St., Coon Rapids, Ia., Sept 1, 1942
To: Mrs. H.R. Smith, Heflin Camp, Edinburg, Ind.
Dear Madalyn –
I suppose Harold has gone by now, have you heard from him
yet? If so, how is he, how does he like army life and what is his address? If I
can think of any more questions, I will shoot them at you.
How is your self? And what are you doing? Is it very warm
down there? It has been really hot the last 5 days in the after-noon. It is about 7:30 P.M. Tuesday and it is still
hot, so I brought this letter down cellar to write it. I was sleeping so I laid
down on my box bed, and even to sleep for ½ hour feel pretty decent. Now am
still canning tomatoes and making apple butter, have 101 qt. of tomatoes
canned, will make a batch of catsup to morrow.
I got 9 qt. of pears from that box. Got ½ bushel of grapes from Aunt
Annie and made some jelly, 6 pints of butter and bottled 12 bottles of grape
juice, including the grapes Clara gave me.
II. Now Madalyn, prepare yourself for some bad news; the Husier (Hoosier?)
twins have both gone beyond. Orange Blossom died Sun. eve & Dagwood died
this morning. They had sort of a bowel trouble, couldn’t do a thing for them. They were so tiny and weak. Our Tommy Tinker and Eudora Rusty cat has it
too, but they are older & stronger. They may pull through. Tom ate a little
milk tonight, but just a little. It has been so hot and sultry.
School started for good this morn; all like it very much,
especially Harry, up at the Catholic school. There were about 25 kids in three
grades, now there are 32, in his grade 7 alone and he has only 4 subjects to
study.
Haven’t seen the girls lately,
but got a service flag from Bess this morn with two stars in it, one star for
Jake & one for Harold. Dad went to N. Coon with the Longfellows, Noble
& his nephew Freddie on Sat., and he got 7 nice catfish and 2 large carp.
He is down fishing in M. [Middle] Coon now.
Write soon Madalyn and send Harold’s address.
Mom
How is Harold’s mother? Tell her to write a line or
two. Wed – It turned much cooler this
morn & rained hard – much nicer.